@June 4, 2014, still “processing.”


Sometimes I run my writings by one friend or another who knows my situation, for “tone,” understanding what’s the purpose of the writing. One of these thankfully catches it when I’m “processing” instead of writing to directly address the issue. There is always a lot to process, and the “process” of not doing it where I shouldn’t usually means extracting what I just wrote — and putting it on another post. That’s this post.

However, scroll down past the teal colored font to black, for the original.  It turns out one of the women who signed my Petition (Signature #51) and submitted a brief comment with it,  went through a similar long-term process of seeking justice and protection for her children (a daughter and two? sons) — and fled to Canada, not finding it here in the US. Only to find that it followed her across the border anyhow.

…or read it all, for a discussion of the impact of having to process acts of abuse and betrayal, constantly, on the target’s personal life energies, and time.

Thanks. The dynamics of this situation are changing. It’s my intention it should be for the better, and not for the worse, as I am concerned. And, I am still a mother. What’s it really saying when one married woman without children of her own starts campaigns against those who have given birth and developed (through raising them) a bond with their own children? Which woman does that tell more about?

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@June 1st, 2014, Sunday, Breaking News, Maybe…

[Couldn’t get this one published til early June 4th.]

The last two weeks have been very intense.  Or you’d have seen more updates.

As I’m heading into June 2nd, the issue of housing again comes up (as it does every month).  I have been as adamant as at any other time that my primary need is to get AWAY from my sister and into safe housing, terminating ANY business connection to her whatsoever — but without forfeiting access to funds intended by both our parents for their children, not just 2/3 of their children.

I’m posting today [started Sun 6/1, more on Mon 6/2, posted actually Wed 6/4] particularly because, as tricky as a situation it is, I want this information posted:

 It appears (but I have not had it confirmed properly) that Jean wants to resign from the trust.  However, I haven’t been told this directly, but indirectly, which itself is “IMHO” (in my humble opinion) and indicator of what’s up next IF this situation isn’t handled properly.

On June 1st (Sunday evening) I emailed BOTH Jean and her attorney asking Jean to confirm or deny that she wants to resign and again asking for missing receipts, and disbursement.

I have no answer yet

People without something to hide can actually speak openly.  Here, they won’t.  So, the situation is still marked “volatile” and questionable until it changes.  Signatures are still welcome on that petition!

I will tell parts of this right here, but as I’ve been spending most of my time drafting responses to attorney’s letters and trying to clean up their verbiage (i.e., my writing), and hold down my outrage, I don’t want to compromise confidentiality.

In their short, cleaned-up format, they would tell this more concisely, but I don’t feel comfortable posting letters  marked “Confidential” regarding an ongoing situation.  Also, it doesn’t make sense to write up for the opposing side just which of the various tactics worked the best.  Would you do that in such an adversarial situation?  I may, but not just yet.



But I want all people who signed the petition, or helped publicize it to know, that your doing so has made a difference.  Now the issue is handling the things it stirred up, which I have to face right here at the street level, i.e., locally.

WHO KNOWS, really, what makes the difference?  But when within about one month of a petition going public, there is this degree of change (as never before), I’m going to say, it made the difference.

 So you 55 people (and anyone else who attempted to sign, but didn’t, there seems to have been a few technical issues) — thanks!  Heartfelt!

Now ….

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